In perhaps no other arena of activity is the Western male so deluded into a strategy for the creation of perpetual suffering than with prescriptions for acquiring a woman. This strategy, as outlined to the Western male-mind whilst he is yet a child, has four primary themes: pursuit, entreatment, placation, and enslavement.
He has internalized these attitudes when dealing with woman to such a degree that he does not even question their basis or validity. How this fostering of delusory habits was accomplished is truly ingenious, and darkly malicious. It was achieved by perverting a male’s fundamental need and distinguishing characteristic: to hunt!
The function of hunting is take a man away from the confinements of urban life, to restore his psychic unity with the natural world, and allow him to explore an ever-unfolding vista in a timeless realm.
The act of hunting is antagonistic to those manifestations of the feminine-psyche: petty agriculture, property, the home and hearth, rites of marriage and the like. (This is the reason females were forbidden to partake in this ritual.)
By confining man within the artificial world of the city, his need to hunt is distorted and subdued by twisting it, instead to the pursuit and acquisition of a woman – now, he doesn’t hunt to escape the world of woman and create an autonomous psychic realm for himself; now, he hunts woman!
Needless to say, this a recipe for disaster with respect to relations between men and women.
When a man hunts woman and constellates the four themes of pursuit, entreatment, placation, and enslavement he gives away all of his power by pedestalling woman and placing himself in a position of abasement. No matter what follows subsequently the relationship can only slide into degeneration.
This is not to say that this strategy is ineffectual in helping to acquire a woman; indeed it works, but always to the man’s detriment.
Men do not understand this and after landing a woman in this fashion wonder at why the ensuing relationship strips them of dignity and vitality; whilst conversely, the woman seems to flower until she eventually trampolines off of his hollowed being into the arms of another man wooing her by these means.
The pitiful man convinces himself that the fault either lay with the woman or with himself and resolves to find another – never questioning his underlying strategy.
The key, however, is not to hunt! The key is to “renounce,” – and in so doing, build up a reservoir of self-respect and personal power sufficient enough to activate his latent masculine-principle.
Then, a woman will ‘hunt him’ – and the woman that chooses to do so will be of a much higher caliber than any of his previous dalliances.
“When one “renounces,” or does not crave, or does not seek, the relationship between subject and object is turned around; what ensues is a state of self-sufficiency, wholeness, and independence from things.
At that time, it is said, rather than the subject going to the object, it is the object that is attracted to the subject. The object is drawn to the subject as if the latter were its “male” principle, or better, a stable, impassive, and sovereign principle, possessing a magically attractive power. Thus each renunciation – as long as it is issued from an inner disposition – puts a great power at one’s disposal” –Julius Evola.
To “renounce” means that you learn to control your desires and withdraw your senses from the external world. It requires that you no longer toss your energy freely at women like crisp, hundred dollar bills. And, given that as a male, you exist in a world saturated by displays of fetishized female-flesh this is no easy task. But, it can be accomplished, and the rewards for doing so are an enhancement of personal-power and liberation from mental-strife, as well as subsequently more fruitful interactions with women.
“Some texts mention certain Shaktis, often personified as goddesses (yoginis or dakinis), that are irresistibly drawn to the merit generated by the renunciation, and that eventually join those who have practiced it.”
The best analogy I can think of is of building a dam of energy by stoppering up the streams and rivers of desire. This dam that you have thus created through multiple acts of renunciation then catch the eyes of powerful women who are thirsty for real manhood – they will then congregate about you to slake their thirst.
And instead of busting your balls or dragging you through the mud as lesser women are wont to do, these higher-order women will approach you in a state of respect, admiration, and reverence.
“A Shakti does not offer herself to those who yearn for her, but rather comes, of her own will, to those who embody her spouse Shiva’s (male-principle) calm and stable nature.”
-By Kain Jc