In Part One, we discussed man’s role as the protector. In this installment, we will discuss man’s role as provider.
As men, we have an innate and primal need to provide. This function is ingrained into the male psyche from birth. Our ability to plan for future events regarding both our families and communities gives us a distinct advantage over our female counterparts as providers.
Providing for the Family
Provision for a man’s family goes far beyond having a good job. Provision involves planning. What happens if you get sick or injured and cannot work? What happens if your son breaks his arm? What if your wife has unexpected complications with her pregnancy? To adequately provide for these situations, one must have a set of protocols and safety nets in place to allow your family to cope with any situation that may arise. It is our job to make sure that all the needs of those under our care are provided for.
Obviously, this starts with the basics; our dependents cannot hold any respect for us as men in authority unless their needs are met. Food and shelter can be had for next to nothing. Even in a primitive situation, a man should be able to erect a shelter and hunt or grow food to feed his family. Without the basics, his family doesn’t survive. Beyond these basics, having plans in place to provide for both health and safety emergencies is imperative. We keep a small binder with standard operating procedures (SOP) regarding situations that could typically affect our family. This includes who picks up the kids from school in case of emergency, fire safety, intruder safety, as well as emergency contacts.
Providing for the Community
While we can apply most, if not all, of our family provision protocols to how we provide for the community, provision for the community also involves extra work. Provision for the community requires cooperation by many men, who often don’t see eye to eye.
Community provision also involves charity. Any community leader or elder who allows a member of the community to suffer unjustly is no leader. It’s not uncommon in most Southern religious communities for a community member’s fellow parishioners to help out by providing food or transportation in case of a medical emergency, following a death in the family, or after the birth of a child; this is the perfect example of community provision in charity. Provision for our community also extends to protection. The Männerbünde must scout and address any weakness that could cause a situation where the men of the community cannot adequately provide for the basic needs of the community.
These are essential requirements and commitments for men.