We’ve all heard the phrase “Sanctity of Marriage” in some form or another, but what does it really mean? By de-sanctifying this concept, that is, to remove any religious aspects, the case for the preservation of the traditional family can be made in opposition to the newfound equality found in same-sex marriage rights. Outwardly, being that America is the land of the “free,” same-sex marriage equality can be seen as a civil-rights triumph. However, the ramifications of this decision on the traditional family unit, as well as, the moral compass of the nation, can be seen clearly with only the slightest readjustment of our rainbow-colored lenses.
In the traditional two parent family, namely those consisting of a biological mother and father, an increase in stability of both the household and child development can be found as opposed to those of both divorced homes and same-sex parents. According to the Family Research Council:
“Homosexual couples using in vitro fertilization (IVF) or surrogate mothers deliberately create a class of children who will live apart from their mother or father. Yale Child Study Center psychiatrist Kyle Pruett reports that children of IVF often ask their single or lesbian mothers about their fathers, asking their mothers questions like the following: “Mommy, what did you do with my daddy?” “Can I write him a letter?” “Has he ever seen me?” “Didn’t you like him? Didn’t he like me?” Elizabeth Marquardt reports that children of divorce often report similar feelings about their non-custodial parent, usually the father.”
This inevitable emotional detachment to either the adoptive or biological parents creates a new class of upbringing in which immediate resentment of the traditional family occurs, and therefore is ingrained in the psyche of the child. Either the child resents their adoptive parents for not being their “true” family, or they learn to resent their biological parents for abandoning them at such a vulnerable stage in life, be it birth, infancy, or several years thereafter. This resentment leads to a skewed perspective of what a natural, nuclear family can provide. Not only this, but studies have shown that children exposed to same-sex relationships as a model for parenthood are more likely to carry on their “parents” legacy.
This perpetual cycle only creates a larger generation of children who see same-sex marriage as not only acceptable, but a societal norm. This notion is unacceptable for the simple fact that children, biologically and sociologically, need both a male and female parent for complete stability. Children, both male and female, need a father for several reasons. Boys need their dads as an example of what a man should be. Studies have shown that a present father reduces antisocial behavior and delinquency in boys, and sexual activity and deviance in girls. In fact, according to an article from Penn State University, the presence of a father figure actually delays the maturation of young girls via pheromones emitted from the father and received through the daughter’s olfactory system. In a sample of 1,938 college students, in which family size, social environment, and length of the father’s absence were taken into account, it was found that those whose fathers had left early on experienced menarche earlier than those whose fathers had stayed longer.
Biology aside, the social structure of a strong marriage’s influence on young girls provides a model for what a woman should look for in a man, not to mention the confidence needed to resist sexual entreaties of courting men who may or may not be from such a stable household. The role of the father is balanced, however, by the role of the mother, who provides counsel, nurturing, and the instinct to read subtle clues of dependency from infants. Homosexual fathers, regardless of how many classes attended or books read, will never possess the natural instincts of a mother, nor will they provide the same comfort and understanding during the stressful psychological and physical changes of female puberty. These are but a few examples of why both a male and female parent are necessary in a marriage and parenthood.
What about those homosexual couples who just don’t want children? What detrimental effects could that possibly have on societal progress? In research conducted on the institution of marriage among same-sex couples, it was found that sexual fidelity was only valued at around 50% of the time, whereas among heterosexual couples those rates were above 79%. In the first edition of his book Virtually Normal, Andrew Sullivan writes:
“There is more likely to be greater understanding of the need for extramarital outlets between two men than between a man and a woman.”
This push for homosexual marriage as a societal norm, when incorporated into mainstream media outlets such as ABC Family’s Modern Family, creates the indoctrination of a normalcy in which infidelity is just a part of life. The ABC network is a Disney company, meaning that the world’s largest marketer to children is in part responsible for this indoctrination. Infidelity is abhorrent not only emotionally to most, but it encourages a culture in which dedication, sacrifice, and integrity are simply undervalued or outdated traits. If this concept isn’t impactful, perhaps the overwhelming rampage of sexually transmitted diseases among the homosexual community will be. Due largely to this inherent culture of infidelity, homosexual men account for over 82% of HIV diagnoses in males, and around 67% of all HIV diagnoses, according to www.aids.gov.
To reinforce the notion of the need for fatherhood, it’s been reported that African American homosexual males are the most severely affected, with the most HIV diagnoses (10,315) in 2015 alone. It’s no secret that the majority of African American families are lacking a father figure. Thanks to the welfare state, the Federal Government has replaced the father in most black households. In fact, according to Child Trends, 72% of black children are now born to single mothers. This instability in the home, with the absence of a father, leads to increased rates of delinquency and violent crime. So much so that the black community, which accounts for approximately 13% of the U.S. population, committed over half of all violent crimes reported in 2014 according to the FBI crime database. A heterosexual, two parent, stable household is imperative for the overall well-being and healthy socialization of children.
Should none of these arguments resonate, a final offer shall be presented which does personally affect each and every individual American: the socio-economic stability of our nation. By isolating marriage from its traditionally procreative purpose, that is, to commit eternally to the responsibility of rearing the next generation, the birthrates of countries who have legalized same-sex marriage are at a rapid decline. Unofficially, look back to the generations of our parents and grandparents. Steadily, as “civil rights” progresses, birthrates decline. My great-grandmother was the youngest of 13 children. The average birthrate now for women is roughly 1.6 children per woman, whereas the maintenance replacement fertility rate is around 2.1 children per woman. As the birthrate declines, a constant yet palpable strain is placed on the average American worker. Less births means a smaller taxable population, which in turn leads to a greater dependency on those who can work to cover the government’s debts. A comparison between U.S. birth rates and U.S. GDP growth shows an almost identical trend, as seen below:
By destroying the nuclear, traditional family, the advent of homosexual marriage normalization has contributed to the destabilization of childhood development, the onslaught of HIV and other STDs, and even contributed to the deprivation of a thriving economy. For these reasons, among many others, I am overwhelmingly in favor of traditional heterosexual relationships, and vehemently against the special feelings of those who seek to destroy this institute, what some may call, the Sanctity of Marriage.